Should You See a Marriage Counselor or a Divorce Lawyer?

In response to the great article on Huffington Post titled: Should you see a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer? http://t.co/itFuuoBhZT

If you want to know if you should divorce your spouse, see a counselor.

The push in the article is to see a marriage counselor. I agree, see a marriage counselor to evaluate if you should get divorced. If you can handle it, I tell people asking me about a divorce, to consider doing some counseling independent of the marriage counseling. Even if the divorce goes forward the individuals counselor is a huge help.

All too often all the frustrations and problems that led people to my office continue to play out in the divorce, as well as new issues such as possible sense of foreboding and loss. Clients often bring those issues up when speaking with me. I don't mind but I then continue to encourage them to bring the issues to a trained counselor who is both better equipped to handle those issues and who likely charges half of what I charge per hour. :) Divorce is hard for most of my clients - I am there for them on all legal issues, and I am there for them, if they ask, to the extent I can help, on other issues as well.